“She's Gotta Have It” season two is Beautiful Trash

I am actually disappointed in season two of She’s Gotta Have It; the entire season is beautiful trash, it is beautiful to look at yet cringe worthy to actually watch. I love the artistry and creativity of the characters, I love the filmography, and music shared throughout the series. But this season lacks good writing, and character development, where was the growth. We know nothing more about the characters in the second season. They had a great opportunity to dive into Nola and Opal relationship especially in regards to the boundaries Opal has towards her daughter. How do you have the nerve to question how someone chooses to raise a child you did not help birth. Secondly, how do you get beside yourself to authorize any form of body modification. Thirdly, the writers just abruptly ended it there. They broke up and Nola justified her selfishness and SCENE.

side note: Nola was completely wrong, and in my opinion Opal was generous. I don’t think I would have been poised.

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Another missed opportunity was Shemekka, first, the butt blow up in season one was dramatic and unnecessary and instead of seriously addressing body image in the black community they made a mockery of it. Nothing led up to Shemekka gaining the courage to complete the police sting because you can clearly sense her regret and insecurity with her body, but there was no dialogue leading up to it and her relationship with Fat Joe’s character is just weird.

Also what was the purpose of the trip to Puerto Rico, outside of Mars and his sister getting their lease agreement situated with their mom it was stretched out. They had beautiful imagery while commercially shedding light to Santeria but again all the extra was fluff that could have been used to actually tell a story.

Moving on to the British African artist Olu, whose medium of choice is cow shit. Then there is a scene with Nola walking toward his bungalow as she gets turned on while peeping on him creating his cow shit masterpiece butt ass naked. really sis.

Then we have the whole blow up scene at the final dinner which is uncomfortable, and again made parody of white people inappropriately moving through black art spaces. While I love that they introduced so many black artist, I feel like if you are not already invested in black art, by familiarizing yourself with the artists you would have thought the artists were as fictional as Nola which defeats the purpose of highlighting them.

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I could keep going on and on about all the missed opportunities that could have made season two really resonate. Jamie’s petty ass, was not needed this season. Clo’s character was briefly addressed yet they could have tie it together better. Mars, some what got his shit together but that fake dyslexia “Baby, Baby, Please Baby” is annoying and distracting. Nola art showcase was cute, but the ground breaking controversial art piece was not shocking to me at all, but as a person I don’t think she showed any personal growth from last season to now. If anything I’m more aware of how self-centered she is.

The writers tried to “start a conversation” about so many current topics but they only glazed over the surface and ended up falling short everything single time. The series jumped around a lot and it was not cohesive, making it hard to follow along. Lastly the “twitter talk” was a reach. They tried so hard to be relatable that it came off disingenuous.

I’m curious if the goal was to make your skin crawl, lol. Regardless, I love, the visuals, the actors and actresses are talented but the lack of character development in the writing did them an injustice. I only watched this season once, and I probably won’t watch it again, unless I need background noise with beautiful black visuals while I am doing house chores.

Triggers | Why You Aren't Accomplishing Your Goals & Ways to Get Better

Triggers by Goldsmith

We are almost into the third month of the New Year. Have you fallen off track already? If so, did you already give up on yourself? Do you believe you gave yourself a fair chance? 

I randomly picked up a book at my sister -in-law house called Triggers by Marshall Goldsmith, literally on the first of January.  Which is ironic because the book is about factors that debilitate us from making positives behaviors we seek to change in ourselves. The perfect book to read at the beginning of the New Year right? 

I wanted to touch on some of the take-aways in hopes that you can apply them to the goals you have set for yourself this year. 

Your Environment Will Not Cater to You!

Unfortunately, we do not have control over our environment as much as we may like to. Not to say that the Universe is actually out to get us, but rather the environment doesn't know your goals. The environment doesn't pick you out of the bunch and decides to cater to your needs, and your needs only.  Instead you have control over how to respond to your environment. 

We are Superior Planner and Inferior Doers

We tend to plan for the future with so much detail and precision yet not follow throught, even when the instructional manual is handed to us.  For example, losing weight and getting fit. We alrealdy know what to do, eat healthier and exercise. Simple! But yet we fall short and skip out on going to the gym, and choose to buy not-so healthy lunches even when we packed our lunch for the day.

Identify Your Triggers

Self-discipline refer to achieving desirable behaviors and self-control refers to avoiding undesirable behaviors.  We are good at making the nessecarry steps to achieve a goal, but it is hard not to submit to temptations. Learning your triggers will help you build your self-control.

You Need Rules

Quoted from the book, "We do not get better without structure." A major key to building structure is repetition.  Structure is helpfull because it limits your options so that you are not thrown off track. This is how we can take control of the otherwise uncontrollable environment. 

Overall, the book is great and it goes into details of strategies and reflections activities that you can use to fianlly make the postive changes to become the person you want to be. 

Let me know in the comments if you read this book and your thoughts about it. 

She's Gotta Have It | Nola Vs. Nola

Photo Courtesy of Netflix

Photo Courtesy of Netflix

So I finally finished watching Netflix's Series of "She Gotta Have It", well actually I finished it a while ago and decided to watch it again. If you haven't seen it I would recommend you indulge but only after you watch the original She Gotta Have It (1986).  

I watch the film a long time ago probably before I was of age to grasp the message but I've seen many times and it is one of my favorite Spike Lee movies.  I love that majority of the movie is in black and white except for Jamie's birthday gift to Nola which was the only scene in color.  I honestly don't think the movies would have registered the same way in full color. 

Photo Courtesy Everett Collection

Photo Courtesy Everett Collection

I love the series thus far and I am thrilled it got picked up for a second season.  I enjoyed the musical scores and the placement of the album cover throughout. While it may be distracting to some, I was ecstatic to update my music library.  Also, I hollered in agreement with every anti-trump, anti-gentrification, anti-misogyny, feminist monologue, and dialogue. 

Given I had some exceptions when I heard that the movies would be turned into a series.   The only hard negative I have so far is that I wished they would have explored more into the realities of black polygamous relationships. Nola quotes "I am a sex-positive, polyamorous pansexual".  When I compare the original film and the series Nola (1986) didn't hide Jamie, Mars, and Grier from each other, they all knew they had a separate relationship with Nola and they stayed regardless of their destain for her choice. She was straightforward in her actions, firm and true to herself.

While Nola (2017) wasn't as forthcoming, yes she spoke boldly in her monologues, her actions did not portray the same message. She contradicted herself, a lot!  Each guy suspected Nola was dating other men, but she didn't confirm or denied instead she floated around and deflected with sugarcoated responses. Nola (2017) was avoiding commitment altogether. 

Nola (1986) and Nola (2017) are two different women in my opinion and it didn't sit well with me. But I get it, Nola 2017, is more relatable, maybe not in the sense of dating three men at the same time (for me at least) but a young black woman coming into her own and getting her shit together. Thanks to the series you can watch and learn from her trials and triumphs and find pieces of yourself in the modern version of Nola Darling as compared to Nola 1986 where there isn't much backstory so you are forced accept her as is. 

Photo Courtesy Netflix

Photo Courtesy Netflix

Just like any book turned movie scenes will be missing an or not fully captured. But I get that also, you gotta stretch it out and create a storyline for seasons to come.  But I question if the rape scene with Jamie and Nola(1986) was completely replaced by the sexual assault scene in the series.  Regardless it serves itself as a catalyst into the important topic of sexual assault/harassment. Maybe the writers decided the rape scene would be insensitive and gory and played it safe, maybe they are saving it. What do I know? I'm anticipating the turn of events that will take place next season. Will Nola ditch all three men, and date Opal? Will new suitors come into her life? Or will we get more of the same run around between Jamie, Grier, and Mars. 

Overall, the show is great in my opinion and I will probably watch it again for the third time. I would like to share two articles, one an interview with Spike Lee about the creation of the series and an academic article I randomly found.

Let me know your thought on the series or the original film in the comments. Also, what are you watching on Netflix currently?


Vulture - Spike Lee on She's Gotta Have It (Interview)

Happy Birthday Nola Essay Commemorating the 20th Anniversary of Spike Lee's She Gotta Have It.

Foote, Thelma Wills. “Happy Birthday, Nola Darling! An Essay Commemorating the Twentieth Anniversary of Spike Lee's ‘She's Gotta Have It.’” Women's Studies Quarterly, vol. 35, no. 1/2, 2007, pp. 212–233. JSTOR, JSTOR, www.jstor.org/stable/27649662.


My Four Favorite Bloggers

As a writer, I enjoy reading what others have to say, how they say it, there tone and what is important to them. I follow many bloggers that write about different topics from fashion, travel, business, creative writing and wellness so below you can discover the four bloggers I am avidly reading right now.

*Yes they are all women of color because representation is important.

Photo Courtesy of TheBWerd.com

Photo Courtesy of TheBWerd.com

Courtney Brand

I stumble across TheBWerd.com after liking one of  Courtney's pictures on Instagram almost a year ago. She curates a lifestyle blog with a niche for women's empowerment, focusing on branding.  I love her delivery, when reading her posts I feel like I'm getting advice from a friend that won't sugarcoat the message. In addition to that, I admire her style and traveling adventures. 


Photo Courtesy of MattieJames.com

Photo Courtesy of MattieJames.com

Mattie James

I honestly cannot recall how I found out about Mattie James, but she has a true lifestyle blog. With a motto "Balancing life stylishly" sharing all aspects of life from style, beauty products, recipes, tips on productivity. She talks about it all!

Photo Courtesy of Oneikathetraveller.com

Photo Courtesy of Oneikathetraveller.com

Oneika the Traveller

I discovered Oneika blog after attending a panel at BlogHer2017 in Orlando. She gave great tips on traveling on a budget and working with a travel agency. So far she has travelled to over 100 countries. Travel goals!

Photo Courtesy of Jchavae.com

Photo Courtesy of Jchavae.com

J. Chavae

Exploring self-care and everything wellness J. Chavae is one of my favorite  holistic / ayurvedic health advocates.  I appreciate that she practices what she preaches and shares her experience in a way that is informative and honest.

That is all, please share some of your favorite bloggers and online content creators! 


Love's Delight

The thought of you brings me into a place of complete bliss, where my present realities no longer consume me and all I can fathom is the essence of you.  

Your presence renders me into a confinement.

I'm stuck, memorize, infatuated because it must be too good to be true.

 With a kiss on the palm of the hand, I internally explode, butterflies flutter in the pit of my stomach, fireworks ignite in my chest, and my knees tremble in delight.  

Just in case you are wondering why I hold on to you so tight. Your voice is a saxophone to my ears, no matter the tune, I'll sway in whatever direction the rhythm moves. 

I'll follow your steps, only to be in awe of the prints you leave behind. A man of long strides. I'll look to them as a guide. 

To be caught up in your winds, I will take flight. I land sitting on a cloud in awe of such a delight. 

Black and Unapologetic

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Being black is the most beautiful thing to be, I can't image myself not ever being black. Unfortunately, it was not always that way.   As a child I remember running around the house with a towel on my head because I wanted long straight hair, I remember wanting lighter skin. I remember going to a predominately white high school and Hollister was in fashion. I would save my allowances just to purchase a shirt and skirt from the clearance section (their jeans would never fit my thighs or hips). I remember so much of myself wanting to be different because that different meant I would be better. 

I can't recall the catalyst that encouraged me to begin to embrace myself as myself outside of going natural.  I  just remember on a random night  in the middle of the night, I literally wrote in my journal  I wanted to stop chemically treating my hair. This all took place during my junior year in high school in 2007 before "going natural" became popular and encouraged.  I won't say I was bullied possibly because it didn't actually bother me, yes comments were made about my hair being nappy and edges not being laid. Regardless of comments and temptation to relax my hair, I wasn't pressed; unconsciously I must have known this journey was encompassing more than just hair and I wanted to see it through. 

I grateful that I am living my young adult life in an era where Black Women are creating there own standards of beauty that better reflect our reality and more accepting of our diversity as women. We can all find comfort in the skin we are in, and take pride in it. To be proud and unapologetic.