Triggers | Why You Aren't Accomplishing Your Goals & Ways to Get Better

Triggers by Goldsmith

We are almost into the third month of the New Year. Have you fallen off track already? If so, did you already give up on yourself? Do you believe you gave yourself a fair chance? 

I randomly picked up a book at my sister -in-law house called Triggers by Marshall Goldsmith, literally on the first of January.  Which is ironic because the book is about factors that debilitate us from making positives behaviors we seek to change in ourselves. The perfect book to read at the beginning of the New Year right? 

I wanted to touch on some of the take-aways in hopes that you can apply them to the goals you have set for yourself this year. 

Your Environment Will Not Cater to You!

Unfortunately, we do not have control over our environment as much as we may like to. Not to say that the Universe is actually out to get us, but rather the environment doesn't know your goals. The environment doesn't pick you out of the bunch and decides to cater to your needs, and your needs only.  Instead you have control over how to respond to your environment. 

We are Superior Planner and Inferior Doers

We tend to plan for the future with so much detail and precision yet not follow throught, even when the instructional manual is handed to us.  For example, losing weight and getting fit. We alrealdy know what to do, eat healthier and exercise. Simple! But yet we fall short and skip out on going to the gym, and choose to buy not-so healthy lunches even when we packed our lunch for the day.

Identify Your Triggers

Self-discipline refer to achieving desirable behaviors and self-control refers to avoiding undesirable behaviors.  We are good at making the nessecarry steps to achieve a goal, but it is hard not to submit to temptations. Learning your triggers will help you build your self-control.

You Need Rules

Quoted from the book, "We do not get better without structure." A major key to building structure is repetition.  Structure is helpfull because it limits your options so that you are not thrown off track. This is how we can take control of the otherwise uncontrollable environment. 

Overall, the book is great and it goes into details of strategies and reflections activities that you can use to fianlly make the postive changes to become the person you want to be. 

Let me know in the comments if you read this book and your thoughts about it. 

Why Wait Till January, When You Can Start Now.

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There are two months until the new year and I've already started working on my goals for 2018.  Last year I decided to start on my New Years resolutions early and it honestly was a major key and and helped me accomplish nearly all my goals. If you can get a head start on building new positive habits  before the new year begins,  you will be on the road to accomplish your goals sooner than you think. So with two months left I'm trying to end off with a bang!

"You will never change your life until you change something you so daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine. " - John Maxwell

Discipline and consistency are critical to success, yet it is the most challenging and where my flaw tend to surface. When temptation presents itself, motivation is not enough. Motivation gets you excited, motivation gets you planning and motivation helps you start. Unfortunately motivation doesn't keep you on track. 

"Either you run the day, or the day runs you" - Jim Rohn

I recently found a journal called Self Journal created by a Best Self. It is a 3 month productivity daily organizer. It provides prompts that allow you to break down your goals into manageable tasks that you can visually track daily, which will ultimately lead you to reach your goal in a matter of three months. In addition, it includes daily morning and evening reflections that give you a minute with yourself to ponder on our successes and setbacks, so you can make changes to do better the next day.  

"Nothing will work unless you do" - Maya Angelou

I've been using this journal for a week, and so far so good. I really like the daily reflections an the visual tracker. I like the feeling I get when I check tasks off knowing that it helping me get closer to my goal.  To keep myself accountable I keep my journal on my dresser so I can't miss it.  If discipline is something you want to work on I suggest getting this book or anything similar to it and start early. Comment below and share some goals you have for the remainder of 2017, or for 2018. 

Year of Execution | 2017 New Year Resolutions

I wanted to take the time to reflect back on my progress so far. My new year resolutions actually started in September of last year. I created a list of things I wanted to accomplish before the year ended, that I could carry into the new year.

Last year was beyond a stressful and depressing year for me. Granted there were amazing things that took place, but I did not allow myself to truly enjoy those moments. I couldn’t enjoy them because I didn’t allow myself to, I was honestly blinded by my own despair. I did not handle anything well including stress, time management, relationships, or myself. Everything went to the wayside, and I was going through the motions, unhappy as I have ever been.  

Nearing the tail end of 2016 I knew in my heart that I did not want to continue on in the same manner.  I finally got tired of being sick and tired, I knew that things needed to change, I needed to change.  In December, I hired Fatima Farmer as a coach. I have been following Fatima online for some years when she announced that she is offering “Empowerment Coaching” I jumped on the opportunity and signed up. Like I said I was tired of being sick and tired.  She definitely delivered, we had weekly phone calls and we communicated via email throughout the week. Fatima really listened to my concerns and helped me create a plan of what I can do to live happier and be content with myself overall. I learned that I already know what it is that I need to do, it’s just the doing it. Execution is the key to 2017 being a great year for me. Some of my goals for the new year are:

Health and Wellness: 

This year I want to establish and maintain healthy fitness routine and eating habits.  I don’t want to limit all foods, but I do want to make better choices with every meal. The goal is to develop a lifestyle where I am swimsuit ready all year long and not conscious of my body. To do so, I will exercise 4-5 days a week, and meal prep my lunches and dinner.

Social/ Networking: 

I hate feeling like all I do is work. Luckily, I am not too shy of a person to avoid going out alone. I plan to go out at least twice a month, whether it be spoken-word, concert, networking event, or a new restaurant.

Creativity:

 Growing up I was extremely creative. I would paint, draw, write, sew, read music, photography. With working a full-time job and graduate school, it has not been easy to find creative outlets, until I decided to start this blog is serving as my creative outlet. Ultimately, serving as somewhat of a creative director and satisfying that itch to create. I want to be consistent in posting also teach myself basic web and graphic design.

Finance: 

I want to save $2,000 outside of my emergency savings. As usual, saving money is always a goal. This year I want to take things a step further  to save for my future home. My address has changed more times than I can count in the past 2 years, and I have had horrible roommates and landlord stories that I can save for another post.

Self-Love:

I know that regardless of the material attainment I gain whether that is a new job, fit body, more money, nicer clothes. None of those things can bring everlasting joy. I can only find that in myself. This year I want to be more confident, self-assured, simply not afraid to be myself. I will surround myself with positive like-minded individuals, read more, listen to motivational podcasts. Take time to listen to myself and get rid of what is not serving me and keep what is.