For People Who Feel Behind In Life

Evelyn is literally one of my best-friends in my head. When she posted this video she was talking to me... and I said to her "Girl I just had this same conversation in my head the other day!" 

Growing up in sports, I developed a competitive spirit which comes with its pros and cons. One of its flaws that I will admit to is creating a competition in my head with my peers.  Unconsciously stacking myself up against others to gauge my position and where I was in the race I made up in my head.  As I embrace self-love I've learned through self-awareness how that process it not helpful or productive by any means.  At the end of the day, you are not truly winning because the race doesn't really exist.  Society has done its due diligence in aiding us to stay in a rat race that again doesn't truly exist.  Therefore we look for meaning, substance, and validation in material things and people to uplift ourselves because we don't believe we are where we should be in life. 

Graduating from college was supposed to be the come up, the ultimate glory. And it was for a very brief moment because there is high.  A moment of eureka, because you made you it, you complete your bachelors degree.  Which has been ingrained in you since grade school will be the ultimate factor that alters your life and open doors of wonders. They didn't lie, attending college does provide life lessons and relationships both personal and professional. Yet, it only really matters in the realm of "college".  The rush to graduate and enter the "Real World" is a set up for failure. There is a structure that exists in higher education that doesn't exist in the real world. From my experience, once I was released from that structure I felt completely lost because I had nothing to gauge myself against, nothing to tell me whether or not I was succeeding.  Therefore, I hit an all time low that took almost 2 years to get out of because I was looking for something to do that would provide that structure. 

The lesson is the realization and acceptance that everyone path is different, and you aren't behind or ahead of anybody else. It is, what it is. What is yours will always be yours and what belongs to someone else belongs to them. Create your our structure and define what success is for you by your own standards. 

And just live.

For People Who Feel Behind In Life

Evelyn is literally one of my best-friends in my head. When she posted this video she was talking to me... and I said to her "Girl I just had this same conversation in my head the other day!" 

Growing up in sports, I developed a competitive spirit which comes with its pros and cons. One of its flaws that I will admit to is creating a competition in my head with my peers.  Unconsciously stacking myself up against others to gauge my position and where I was in the race I made up in my head.  As I embrace self-love I've learned through self-awareness how that process it not helpful or productive by any means.  At the end of the day, you are not truly winning because the race doesn't really exist.  Society has done its due diligence in aiding us to stay in a rat race that again doesn't truly exist.  Therefore we look for meaning, substance, and validation in material things and people to uplift ourselves because we don't believe we are where we should be in life. 

Graduating from college was supposed to be the come up, the ultimate glory. And it was for a very brief moment because there is high.  A moment of eureka, because you made you it, you complete your bachelors degree.  Which has been ingrained in you since grade school will be the ultimate factor that alters your life and open doors of wonders. They didn't lie, attending college does provide life lessons and relationships both personal and professional. Yet, it only really matters in the realm of "college".  The rush to graduate and enter the "Real World" is a set up for failure. There is a structure that exists in higher education that doesn't exist in the real world. From my experience, once I was released from that structure I felt completely lost because I had nothing to gauge myself against, nothing to tell me whether or not I was succeeding.  Therefore, I hit an all time low that took almost 2 years to get out of because I was looking for something to do that would provide that structure. 

The lesson is the realization and acceptance that everyone path is different, and you aren't behind or ahead of anybody else. It is, what it is. What is yours will always be yours and what belongs to someone else belongs to them. Create your our structure and define what success is for you by your own standards. 

And just live.

The Young Professional, Pros & Cons

Upon graduating college everyone's goal is to land a job and  begin progressing in their careers. Divulging into my personal experience working in a professional setting as a young adult has revealed to me how unprofessional, professional life really is.  While in college, I attended a plethora of professional development workshops from email etiquette, networking, first impression etc.  You name it, I've probably attended it. The deeper I find myself interacting and observing my colleagues the more I noticed professionalism is not "Professionalism"  it is a "Mask".

It is a mask, that tends to shade over the fact that you are human. It covers your creativity, charm, and individuality. I find myself at times in certain settings where I am in conflict with being "professional" and being myself. As a young professional, you are praised for your youth. You are looked upon for modern and edgy innovations and being able to streamline everything into one, much like our all in one smartphone. Yet, you are disregarded in some instances as incompetent and inexperienced. While, the difference is not lack of knowledge but a different method of attack. We Millennials, have such an amazing niche. That is our unapologetic notion that "anything is possible". Can you truly blame us, we've been feed this line since birth? Yet, in the professional world, we are met with restrictions, or a clear cut "NO", for the same suggestions we were hired to possibly implement.

Though it is not all bad, it is truly uplifting when you are acknowledged by your colleagues for your amazing work and  growth. When others pull you aside and say, " you will go far you have amazing potential". It is by far a great confidence booster. In all, where do you find that happy medium of being yourself, and being "professional"?The answer to that will be different for everyone and many factors play a pivotal role. For example your work atmosphere, your relationship with your co-workers, and communication. Once you figured that out, you can make a decision for yourself , on how much of yourself, can you give to the "professional" world.